Labour Pains

[Peasie]

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Oh my goodness.

ILP

This is why you run not just to make you stronger physically but to keep you grounded emotionally.

Nuff blessings coming your way, baby

[twiney]

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CB & Nunya mi no have no pity pon the mother maybe because of all she has put this child through over the years (based on what ILP wrote) if she was willing to accept any sort of responsibility for her actions including basically putting the girl out ... (That is how the child ended up with ILP) she already rejected her and this is just the girl formalizing the end of of something that was dead for a while. Who mi sorry for is the little sister

[mountaingal]

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what peasie said. ((((((ilpy))))))

[CeaBee]

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twiney maybe me just sorry cause me a imagine how it woulda feel if me pikney actually guh thru the the trouble of changing them name

(although is not my name dem have all the same )

ILP has done a lot for BabygirlA over the years, suh me can see why the little girl want to do that...but is the mother in me feel a likkle sorry fi the other mother

(doan judge me......and ILP doan box me )

[twiney]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CeaBee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">twiney maybe me just sorry cause me a imagine how it woulda feel if me pikney actually guh thru the the trouble of changing them name

(although is not my name dem have all the same )

ILP has done a lot for BabygirlA over the years, suh me can see why the little girl want to do that...but is the mother in me feel a likkle sorry fi the other mother

(doan judge me......and ILP doan box me ) </div></div>

save u sorry for the likkle sister me say

[CeaBee]

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Of course i feel it for all Babygirl A has been thru and what her little sister may be going thru now.

(stop box me man )

[Nanook]

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All I can say is just wow. It is good to hear Babygirl A is doing so well, sorry to hear momma is still a train wreck. I can't believe she actually smacked you! crazy.

[Skelly]

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ILP I don't even know what to say..it is just disgusting that a grown assed woman can behave that way....she not fit to raise a hamster much less a child

[Skelly]

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And good for notsobabygirl A ...she really has demonstrated a level of maturity throughout this whole saga that exceeds her age. My best wishes for all of you.

[ILP]

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Thanks oonu, mi understand all of your points of views. ahn even though babygirlA muddah has done some dastardly things over the years (not just to babygirlA, but to harself)...i've always felt like there was a line that i couldnt cross ahn that was her role as babygirlA's mother. when babygirlA would talk gense har mother, i always stepped in to say i guess because...it was her mother. dont get me wrong many things make you a mom, but i guess i've just always given heavy credence to &quot;the mother&quot; role.

once mi stop bawl ahn had a chance to think about babygirlA's request...i had to really question har bout what she wanted to do. people do A LOT of things when they are upset and/or hurt. ahn like some of you have said...i'm not sure how'd take it if Hunter came in ahn wanted to change his name.

babygirlA was rather matter-of-fact (which concerned me at first) ahn it basically just boiled down to her wanting to end a chapter in her life...a chapter in which she decided the beginning/end.

the clerk that took the application said a part of the 180 wait period was to not only make sure that the legalities of a name change was handled, but to give babygirlA the window to change her mind if she wanted to.

i have no idea if her mother knows about the application. i do know that the identity theft case didnt end well for her.AT.ALL. BabygirlA has a sister (di mother other child)...ahn things are not going well on that end either. but i made the decision years ago now...that i just couldnt become emotionally involved with the other child. i might have to pay the piper for that choice when karma comes around, but right now...that is the choice I've made.

babygirlA does try to have contact with the sister, but with everything and her going to school out of state...well....

anyhew...

so di question is....what did di current mr ilp have to say about all of this

[kia027]

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yes we were waiting for part 3

[Gen]

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lawd mi don't even know what to say. She recognize how important you have been in her life.

Mi don't even have one rice grain a sympathy for the woman who birth her she behaved more like the child's friend as opposed to her Mother. Pack up her tings and fling her out pan street don't even guh her graduation

is the likkel sister mi fear for. Who knows if the madda been tekking out her frustrations on the little girl \o/.

[ILP]

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K...Kia wins....

Pretty much after BabygirlA came to live with us...di current mr ilp had some very strong opinions about my &quot;even dealin' with that wack chic. cuz she got issues and right minded people cant make a wack person understand things.&quot; &lt;---dont laugh after di man..im is from Kansas

k...so di man really cuss mi ahn tell mi daht im nah come home ah nite time come lissen di latest. mi fi stop deal wid di ooman. period. it worked for the most part...well until she'd call (ahn im would look pan mi like ) or she would do something ahn babygirlA would come ahn talk to me about it...then im would ahn then walk off.

Most of oonu know that back in the early spring, di current mr ilp niece went to study abroad as part of her degree. ahn while there she died suddenly. it was the most shockingly sad thing cah she wasn't ill or anything. she went to sleep ahn asked that her roomies wake her up for dinner. when they went to do so..she was dead. it was a big mess trying to get her body back from Italy. His brother (and the family) was understandably heart broken. That was their eldest (and only) daughter. They have 2 younger boys. Well after Italy did an autopsy (to make sure that no crime was committed) they finally sent her body back. The brother didn't really have the money to take care of all of the arrangement, as who plans for someone that young to die. And then die while abroad. You know His niece died of an Pulmonary Embolism.

Funeral...the sadness that goes along with that. Considering ones own mortality...you know all the stuff one thinks about when someone you love dies. That was it. Shortly after the funeral, di current mr ilp made the comment that he &quot;missed home.&quot; I never thought much about it (you know what mi mean)...as well it is natural to want to be close to family after someone dies.

Summer started (and so did those hearings ) and di current mr ilp's mom took a bad fall in her house and he went out to take care of her. That too...understandable. He was gone for 8 days. He came home and then switched meetings with someone in his office....the meeting took him back home. Then he was back for a few days and then gone back again.

Finally, I was like what is really going on here

[SandiF]

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ILP -- yes, I remember you posting about the sudden passing of your beloved's niece. You are right, no one prepares for something like that..especially when the person is so young. Death when it happens in close quarters is very difficult...

[kia027]

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ILP I am so sorry about the niece's sudden death. Pulmonary embolism I guess it was just her time ((RIP Niece)) (((Mr ILP and his family)))