Casual Dating - How to break up.

[Gen]

well now that yuh seh dem mature, then what you outlined below would work best.

I think those last two sentences sound a little harsh and the "we" sounds like you want to shift the blame and yuh might get drama

I would rephrase this as,

I have really enjoyed our times together and getting to know you.

Nevertheless I just don't see our relationship going anywhere. I'm just too busy with my work to give this relationship the time it deserves.

[Tropicana]

Or use the typically Canadian:

We are not a good fit.

[Peasie]

I don't like the idea of using the "we" word at all (even when it is true). Just use "I" and break it off. It seems kinder and don't leave the other person wondering what they did wrong.

[Tropicana]

It all depends. If the guy has been a jerk don't you want him to see him wreath in agony as he crawls on broken glass and begs you to stay?

[Peasie]

It all depends. If the guy has been a jerk don't you want him to see him wreath in agony as he crawls on broken glass and begs you to stay?

That's for another thread, perhaps about how immature drama-loving women break up. Do you want to start one?

[Tropicana]

Yes that would be fun....

[Peasie]

This is an one definition (my bold)

<sub>Believe it or not, I think most people are in short-term relationships and are casually dating and just don’t know it. Casual dating is the new relationship.

I don’t think it’s unrealistic to think that people who are casually dating can see each other once a week or more. In fact, I would say that that is the norm for casual daters. The thing to remember about casual dating is that is basically means that you’re seeing each other regularly or semi-regularly, sleeping together, but there is no expressed exclusivity or long term commitment. It’s more like Indefinite Dating than Casual Dating. It doesn't really have an expiration date unless you and the person you’re seeing would like to put one on it. Which, you know, is a huge buzz kill.

My personal experience, as well as that of many of my friends, is that casual dating isn't always any different than long term dating or serious dating. We take trips and go to events together and meet each other’s friends. I think people assume that casual dating is just meeting for drinks and then going home and having sex. Which it can be, and there’s nothing wrong with that. A lot of people like to place importance on the logistics of the dates, how much money is spent, how much time is spent together and what activities are involved other than sex. People comfortable with casual dating don’t really care about that stuff. It’s about the quality of the connection, not the itinerary of events involved.</sub>

[Tropicana]

[Wahalla]

This is an one definition (my bold)

<sub>Believe it or not, I think most people are in short-term relationships and are casually dating and just don’t know it. Casual dating is the new relationship.

I don’t think it’s unrealistic to think that people who are casually dating can see each other once a week or more. In fact, I would say that that is the norm for casual daters. The thing to remember about casual dating is that is basically means that you’re seeing each other regularly or semi-regularly, sleeping together, but there is no expressed exclusivity or long term commitment. It’s more like Indefinite Dating than Casual Dating. It doesn't really have an expiration date unless you and the person you’re seeing would like to put one on it. Which, you know, is a huge buzz kill.

My personal experience, as well as that of many of my friends, is that casual dating isn't always any different than long term dating or serious dating. We take trips and go to events together and meet each other’s friends. I think people assume that casual dating is just meeting for drinks and then going home and having sex. Which it can be, and there’s nothing wrong with that. A lot of people like to place importance on the logistics of the dates, how much money is spent, how much time is spent together and what activities are involved other than sex. People comfortable with casual dating don’t really care about that stuff. It’s about the quality of the connection, not the itinerary of events involved.</sub>

A date it strikes me has to be mutually beneficial...and it should be not a setting for interrogation , but rather to enjoy a social setting... so if one sees it as a simply as a setting to pontificate or as solely a step to determine if the other is a marriagable quantity then it is doomed to failure... But then I am in a multi decade relationship!

[CeaBee]

I don’t think it’s unrealistic to think that people who are casually dating can see each other once a week or more. In fact, I would say that that is the norm for casual daters.

This would be weird for more than a couple of "getting to know you" weeks. If i seeing you more than once a week for months upon end, this is a relationship, whether u like it or not

[RichD]

This would be weird for more than a couple of "getting to know you" weeks. If i seeing you more than once a week for months upon end, this is a relationship, whether u like it or not

yes a casual relationship..hence the need for break up protocol

[CeaBee]

yes a casual relationship..hence the need for break up protocol

u gwine learn today Delroy.



bout "casual relationship"

[Tropicana]

Casual dating is tough to define. Men are notorious for taking you out a few times and when you discover they are rooksin someone else insisting that they were never attracted to you, you were never dating and you misunderstood the relationship. This is after wining and dining you, springing for lobster dinners.... It's truly weird behaviour.

[Tropicana]

Let's try and see if this helps. It's advice for men.

buns in ovens...keep things relaxed for months or even years...dodge the am I your girlfriend discussion

[Tropicana]