WWBP CEW - Part Nuff

[churchgirl]

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CEW I notice that you don't indulge in Patois (writing it i.e.) on the Board. Why is that?

Also do you speak more English than you do Patois?

[Ivory]

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Yippppeeeee!!! Better keep my YMCA pass after all. The Caribbean. I will be there.

Note to the Special Lady...You have yourself a great gentleman. Treat him good! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

[Diplomat]

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Originally posted by churchgirl:

CEW I notice that you don't indulge in Patois (writing it i.e.) on the Board. Why is that?

Good observation. Growing up, my father did not allow us to speak/use it and once I got older, I did not feel the need to adopt it. I cannot recall my Dad ever using it though my Mom did so occasionally. Seeing I was a bit of loner as a kid, I did not hang around with a lot of people who spoke it either, and the friends I had were all teachers' pets and had to use "proper" English. The rest of my siblings are very much "bilingual". [img]/forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]

Also do you speak more English than you do Patois?

But for the odd sentence or two, I do not speak patois. I have difficulty reading it but do understand it - except for some slangs - when I hear it.

[mgfrias]

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OMG! It's only the 6th of the month and this is almost 7 pages long!!!!

[Guest]

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CEW, I'm currently listening to the tape "No More Sheets" by Juanita Bynum and I'm very impressed with her preaching/teaching style in not holding anything back. She spoke about many singles wanting to rush into marriage without getting rid of the layers of the previous man/men in their lives.

How would you counsel a single *person* on getting rid of layers?

[Diplomat]

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Marilou: They'll probably run out of questions in another couple of days (except for (H)AnnA(H)). Don't worry [img]/forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img] .

[Ephratahe]

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Congrats CEW. Great ministry [img]/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] .

[Diplomat]

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Originally posted by Compry:

CEW, I'm currently listening to the tape "No More Sheets" by Juanita Bynum and I'm very impressed with her preaching/teaching style in not holding anything back. She spoke about many singles wanting to rush into marriage without getting rid of the layers of the previous man/men in their lives.

How would you counsel a single *person* on getting rid of layers?

Excellent question. First and foremost, I think it is very important to have closure to past relationships, and where there was a physical relationship - but no children - it is sometimes best for exes to go their separate ways as a part of that closure. The lack of closure represents obstacles. Obstacles to healthy relationships with God and others, and wherever these are present, a person is not quite ready to commit to another person.

We do not have to get all spiritual to find closure. We can simply write the person a letter - even long after they are gone - and burn it, flush it, or tear it up, but as we watch that paper burn, flushed, or ripped, the symbolic gesture is very important in the release of whatever was left of that past. It is a bit of a cleansing process that says, this is OVER, DONE, FINISHED! That includes the memories too and the removal of the layers means denying yourself permission to revisit that relationship in your mind. I say deny yourself because while we cannot stop the birds from flying over our heads, we can stop them from nesting there. This is where it gets difficult for some people, especially females, who like to take "ownership" of emotions such as pain, disappointments, grief, and so on. Those feelings associated with the failures of past relationships have to go, and God is more than able to take us beyond our human limitations IF we are prepared and willing to allow Him to.

It is important to understand that for the Christian, marriage is a ministry, and it is easier to minister to another person when one is whole, mentally and emotionally. To do otherwise is to do oneself a tremendous disservice and can retard the spiritual development of one's spouse. As Juanita would say: "If you cannot take the person to the next level spiritually, leave them alone." That is why the removal of the layers are so important. I have just scratched the surface of this subject, which I feel very passionately about, but do feel free to ask follow-up questions if you are so inclined.

Edited for typo...

[Guest]

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Thanks for your responses so far by the way. Permission to copy your response to start a new thread, please?

[Diplomat]

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Originally posted by Compry:

Thanks for your responses so far by the way. Permission to copy your response to start a new thread, please?

Sure, not a problem. The only condition is that you remember it is your thread and not mine. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[Guest]

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Originally posted by CEW:
[qb] Originally posted by Compry:

Thanks for your responses so far by the way. Permission to copy your response to start a new thread, please?

Sure, not a problem. The only condition is that you remember it is your thread and not mine. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] [/qb]

[img]/forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] Funny.

[Diplomat]

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Originally posted by ephra:

Congrats CEW. Great ministry [img]/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

Thank you. Please do include me in your prayers.

[tonirand]

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Originally posted by CEW:
[qb] Marilou: They'll probably run out of questions in another couple of days (except for (H)AnnA(H)). Don't worry [img]/forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img] . [/qb]

Note taken. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[Guest]

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I'm sure you're thankful for many things today. If you were asked what's the one thing that happened today that you are most thankful for, what would that be?

[Diplomat]

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Originally posted by Compry:

I'm sure you're thankful for many things today. If you were asked what's the one thing that happened today that you are most thankful for, what would that be?

Besides waking up and being in my sound mind? Ignoring my head and following my heart to reach out to someone who is hurting.