Black Interracial Dating Issues

[Tropicana]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Well this one is 11 pages and counting. The threads I start are typically long ones so there is not trouble with progressing I will not tolerate rude, nasty and out of order people on or off the board. What was said was nasty, unprovoked and totaly uncalled for. When people show their true colours, I make sure they don't have an opportunity to do it again. What would you rather I do, insult them back? I am more than capable of holding my own in any battle but there is no point. Why stoop to their level? </div></div>

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Runnah</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Keep ignoring them Tropicana. Don't even bother to share your knowledge with them because they just don't get it. They are just cowards who have nothing better to do than to follow you around the board with their toothless grins and shrivelled, floppy behinds, trying to be funny. They come across as desperate old fogies grovelling for attention and cyber friends to laugh with them but little do they know is that they are the joke. </div></div>

Exactly. This is the best advise yet. What is it mi granny used to say &quot;save mi breathe fe cool mi soup&quot;.

[Wahalla]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

Originally Posted By: Wahalla

Have you ever stopped to wonder if the men who fit into the mold of which you require may find the parameters that you offer singularly unappealing ????


Boy you love to make assumptions (see bolding). Most of the Black men I know who fit what I am looking for are already married.[/quote]

No assumptions the fact of the matter you are unmarried.. you have been unmarried longer than you have been married..You are actively seeking a husband... You have failed to find one... Does this not mean that men whom fulfil your criteria would rather not be married to you ??? or have in all this time you never ever become aquainted with such a elusive creature ????? <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

[quote] Most of the White men who fit what I am looking for won't date Black women period!</div></div> or does this mean those who fit your criteria wont date you ???


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It takes character, compatibility and chemistry to make a relationship work.
</div></div> and in your case it seems that this comes down to job and earning...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You also read the stats that indicated that Black women are outstripping Black men in terms of educational achievement. FACT!! </div></div> As a person who never finished grade 2 I am always struck by the overemphersis placed on formal education, almost as if formal degrees are an equavalence of inteligence....

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I guess you would prefer that I work like a dog each and every day of my life whiel someone freeloads off me.

</div></div> Want equality ? then that is the case....Men have been supporting financially supporting women freeloaders.. Ask every husband who is presented to with a credit card bill at the end of the month.... I frankly dont see you working like a dog any different to my friends who labour for a spendthift female dog..... And yes I would that would brihng some balance to the universe! So I dont mind you doing that!

[Tropicana]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">or does this mean those who fit your criteria wont date you ??? </div></div>

You got it Pontiac!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Does this not mean that men whom fulfil your criteria would rather not be married to you ??? </div></div>

No I have not met anyone who fulfills my criteria.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> As a person who never finished grade 2 I am always struck by the overemphersis placed on formal education, almost as if formal degrees are an equavalence of inteligence....
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No they are not one and the same. I don't eed to be with someone who has the same level of education that I have but he's got to come with something....definitely not a high school drop out or just high school...why.....in most instances, earning power will be limited.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It takes character, compatibility and chemistry to make a relationship work.</div></div>
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
and in your case it seems that this comes down to job and earning... </div></div>



I have never said that and you know it. It is a total package character, compatibility, chemistry, and good earning power. Doesn't have to be rich but certainly established in his career and earning a livable wage. You seem to have a problem with that and would be happiest if I were starving or married to someone I have to &quot;mind&quot;. Not going there. In the case I did not have to &quot;mind&quot; anyone but I sure was certainly the one who had to take care of the lion's share of the bills. It was NOT fun and I will not be repeating that mistake to please you or anyone else.

I have nothing further to say about this matter. If you don't like it, you can lump it. My position has been clearly stated and it is not going to change.

<span style="font-size: 17pt"> <span style="font-weight: bold"> MI DONE TALK!!</span> </span>

[julie*mango]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: loops</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">BTW, those of you who <span style="text-decoration: line-through">hurled insults </span> *disagreed with me* during this thread have now been placed on ignore. </div></div>

more accurate

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yah know ...but what difference does it make??? once someone gets quoted she will still see what they say...in addition I know for a fact that she starts threads like these just to rile ppl up

[loops]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

hehe...i pray to be quoted.

[Seveen]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

i guess the men have you on ignore

[Wahalla]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> You seem to have a problem with that and would be happiest if I were starving or married to someone I have to &quot;mind&quot;. Not going there. In the case I did not have to &quot;mind&quot; anyone but I sure was certainly the one who had to take care of the lion's share of the bills. It was NOT fun and I will not be repeating that mistake to please you or anyone else.
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I have no problem with women paying the lionshare of the bill... Men having been doing this for donkeys years, a woman paying the bill is not a problem. You seem to resent the equality in finincial contributions.. .. See it has crystalised with the problem being about you as opposed to being about anyone else....

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I don't eed to be with someone who has the same level of education that I have but he's got to come with something....definitely not a high school drop out or just high school...why.....in most instances, earning power will be limited.
</div></div> When did this switch become personalised ????

There is a shortage of women pHDs physists.. should men with pHD ins pphyis rejected women who are mere educated with pointless ultaliterian degrees in HR, media studies, retailing ????

In fact there are a greater number of blackmen with pHD's is it any wonder they are so single....

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I have never said that and you know it. It is a total package character, compatibility, chemistry, and good earning power. </div></div> No you implied it over and over again.. He has to have a certain finacial status....Compatibility seems to be based on as much on disposal and available financial renumeration.. and a high school education... If men did the reflective calculus on this they would find that it would simply make more sense to use sex workers. Your postion is it seems to me akin to Beyonce aproach to marriage.. money and disguise every thing else behind a gossemer veil of other intangibles. The status of a social parnterships reduced to mere finacial is sad... Go ahead say you done talk or you did not say that. But finaical success is the gate keeper to baggy dropping.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Quote:
or does this mean those who fit your criteria wont date you ???


You got it Pontiac! </div></div>

And this could explain the above situation.. A man with finacial where with all would rather run an imfinate distance than be exposed to such an overemphersis on the financial.... The fundamental question he would ask is &quot; if I dont have this would she be here ?&quot; given the above postion of over emphersis on the material sucess, a single man with money who is actually with material success is more likely to do the diefential comparision and go for a younger model who offers the same downside but with the benifit of a firmer body...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">MI DONE TALK!! </div></div>

Is this board lands equavalent of the scanario men are all too familiar with ?????? The silent treatment from a wife who finds that the man has a contratry opnion ???

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">i guess the men have you on ignore

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mi madda, poopa, auntie, uncle

[Diplomat]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body">MI DONE TALK!! </div></div>
Is this board lan(e)s equavalent of the scanario men are all too familiar with ?????? The silent treatment from a wife who finds that the man has a contratry opnion ??? </div></div>
I don't remember Yuk Yuk's being this good. Mercy \o/

I guess we can close the thread now?

[julie*mango]

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yes please...this done get old...Tropi mi know yu love play games wid ppl jus fi siddung an laff at the responses ..trying to bruk yu 11 page record?

[Wahalla]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

are you not offened by the way black men are constantly diminished ?

[Diplomat]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly_n_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">yes please...this done get old...Tropi mi know yu love play games wid ppl jus fi siddung an laff at the responses .. </div></div>
I stand to be corrected, but I do think these threads are meant to provoke reactions as more times than not, they come up when the board is slow Not quite trolling, but the patterns are predictable: nobody is going to change the thread starter's mind, and everyone who disagrees end up in the dog house. Then there's the inevitable &quot;MI DONE TALK!&quot; when seriously challenged. Makes one wonder

[Diplomat]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">are you not offened by the way black men are constantly diminished ? </div></div>
In threads of this nature, no, because I realize the opinions of the thread starter do not necessarily mirror those of black women in general. There are far more black women (and some of other races) who love and support their black men than there are those who constantly try to emasculate them and make them feel inferior.

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CEW</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">are you not offened by the way black men are constantly diminished ? </div></div>
<span style="font-weight: bold">In threads of this nature, no, because I realize the opinions of the thread starter do not necessarily mirror those of black women in general. There are far more black women (and some of other races) who love and support their black men than those who constantly try to emasculate them and make them feel inferior.</span> </div></div>


preach

[Wahalla]

Re: Black Interracial Dating Issues

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CEW</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">are you not offened by the way black men are constantly diminished ? </div></div>
In threads of this nature, no, because I realize the opinions of the thread starter do not necessarily mirror those of black women in general. There are far more black women (and some of other races) who love and support their black men than there are those who constantly try to emasculate them and make them feel inferior. </div></div>

As so many of my friends are black and Jamaican and struggle against personal and societal demons I find that these near constant simplistic unrealistic homilies diminsh them.. Ffrankly I dont think you nor any other men on here are any different from the lumpen mass of Jamaicans.. Yet from these posting I find it eerily scary that so many are being summerily dismissed as wothless.. The danger is that these attacks becomes self fulfilling... Sterotypes being confirmed by force multipliers... As men are we saints as husbands or parnters... no neiother are we wastrals or spongers drug takers alcoholics.. (Me I indulge in Kat, Coca leaf, tobaco,)... The weasl words that are put in to be used to say I did not imply your friend are included in the worthless majority dont take away you insult the majority, my friends are the majority....