Should I go?

**Bandana** · 11-08-2007, 06:20 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Empress_Nylah</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

Then why are you asking for ppl's opinions?

I dont get your point. If I was admant about not sending my son, I sure as hell wouldnt ask anyone for their opinion - I just do what I wanted.

P.S. You are not the only person on the planet with horrible in-laws. I'm sure there are ppl on hear who could give your story a run for your money.

I dont care how you cut it - I would not make the same choice as you. But seeing as you dont think anyone has walked in your shoes, feel free to ignore my advice and everyone else's. </div></div>

The topic is "Should I go?"

Wasn't asking about anyone else's shoes. </div></div>

I think you've gotten your answer then...

NO!

Do not go spit in the woman's coffin [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img]

Lawd forgive mi anger.. I'm done here [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70361-embarassed.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img]

**Nylah** · 11-08-2007, 06:21 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Empress_Nylah</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

Then why are you asking for ppl's opinions?

I dont get your point. If I was admant about not sending my son, I sure as hell wouldnt ask anyone for their opinion - I just do what I wanted.

P.S. You are not the only person on the planet with horrible in-laws. I'm sure there are ppl on hear who could give your story a run for your money.

I dont care how you cut it - I would not make the same choice as you. But seeing as you dont think anyone has walked in your shoes, feel free to ignore my advice and everyone else's. </div></div>

The topic is "Should I go?"

Wasn't asking about anyone else's shoes. </div></div>

u realize, or maybe not - that what you just said makes no sense. How else are ppl going to come with an opinion except for based on their experience and their own personal disposition?

If you could get a hold of your anger you wuld see what ppl are trying to tell you.

Carry on.

**Suesumba** · 11-08-2007, 06:23 PM

Re: Should I go?

draw brakes!!! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bexbad.gif[/img]

how alla unnu a gwannie gwannie like sundeh goh to chuch christian soh? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

so the woman lose respeck fi di son and shi nevva like di meddling ol bush pig. what's wrong with being honest about it?

granted, shi mite noh haffi tell di man soh, but shi noh haffi a quinge up face and a mek like shi nice if a noh soh shi feel.

if shi noh feel fi inflict death pon har chile it's her pregrogative, caz to me it doan soun like he's much of a *father* to this seed he planted. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

ol uttupeck dem [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

**Nylah** · 11-08-2007, 06:25 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">draw brakes!!! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bexbad.gif[/img]

how alla unnu a gwannie gwannie like sundeh goh to chuch christian soh? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

so the woman lose respeck fi di son and shi nevva like di meddling ol bush pig. what's wrong with being honest about it?

granted, shi mite noh haffi tell di man soh, but shi noh haffi a quinge up face and a mek like shi nice if a noh soh shi feel.

if shi noh feel fi inflict death pon har chile it's her pregrogative, caz to me it doan soun like he's much of a *father* to this seed he planted. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

ol uttupeck dem [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] </div></div>

then let the woman reap what she sows..... just dont come and ask what should I and stick out your bottom lip cause you dont like the answers. Go bout your business then cause I'd ask none of you all what to do if that is how I felt. Truss mi

**Suesumba** · 11-08-2007, 06:28 PM

Re: Should I go?

Nyla in my years of seeing these types of question and the reactions they garner from the poster seeking valid advice, all i can say is to always reinforce what THEY REALLY WANT TO DO. they don't come for advice, so much as support for whatever course of action they planned all along is the right one.

don't tell nobaddy seh mi seh soh. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70390-shhh.gif[/img]

**DebsinNY** · 11-08-2007, 06:29 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Empress_Nylah</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">draw brakes!!! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bexbad.gif[/img]

how alla unnu a gwannie gwannie like sundeh goh to chuch christian soh? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

so the woman lose respeck fi di son and shi nevva like di meddling ol bush pig. what's wrong with being honest about it?

granted, shi mite noh haffi tell di man soh, but shi noh haffi a quinge up face and a mek like shi nice if a noh soh shi feel.

if shi noh feel fi inflict death pon har chile it's her pregrogative, caz to me it doan soun like he's much of a *father* to this seed he planted. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

ol uttupeck dem [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] </div></div>

then let the woman reap what she sows..... just dont come and ask what should I and stick out your bottom lip cause you dont like the answers. Go bout your business then cause I'd ask none of you all what to do if that is how I felt. Truss mi </div></div>

Can you see me? Do you see my bottom lip sticking out?

**Nylah** · 11-08-2007, 06:33 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Nyla in my years of seeing these types of question and the reactions they garner from the poster seeking valid advice, all i can say is to always reinforce what THEY REALLY WANT TO DO. they don't come for advice, so much as support for whatever course of action they planned all along is the right one.

don't tell nobaddy seh mi seh soh. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70390-shhh.gif[/img] </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] I did realize that SueSumba. I was just playing along with the madness cause I am in full agreement with you.

don't tell nobaddy seh mi seh soh. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70390-shhh.gif[/img]

And yes DebsinNY - it is easy to see that your bottom lip is sticking out [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img]
It's funny how you ignore the bulk of what I said though [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

**DebsinNY** · 11-08-2007, 06:37 PM

Re: Should I go?

So that's it huh? You don't like being ignored?

**kia027** · 11-08-2007, 06:39 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it.

You made your bed and now you have to lie in it. If you dont want your son to go then dont send him.

BTW aint nother wrong with a dead bodies. u fraid ar duppy will follow u son home? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

**Nylah** · 11-08-2007, 06:41 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So that's it huh? You don't like being ignored? </div></div>

bwoy - now you are just being silly. Who are you to me to care if you are ignoring me?

I was stupid to think you actually wanted to dicussing. I was answering you genuinely at the beginning of this thread, now you are obviously in a world all your own.

Have a nice life

**DebsinNY** · 11-08-2007, 06:43 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race.

**FrenchTickla** · 11-08-2007, 06:44 PM

Re: Should I go?

oonu have time. u just cyaan please some people.

den ketch di attitude [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]

**FrenchTickla** · 11-08-2007, 06:47 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

a oliva did ask smaddy ef dem a half **** or full ****?

dat poor pickney.

**kia027** · 11-08-2007, 06:48 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

jus like u are not italian.

jamaicans have long memories eno! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

**BlessedLadyOfZion** · 11-08-2007, 06:50 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

jus like u are not italian.

jamaicans have long memories eno! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img] </div></div>pap tory...is dis de smae person weh did come seh dem wuk doing dis an dat an she an man fight inna car an ray ray?? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

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