child support

[Nunya]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BanDanna</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

And this is the reason I have never been in a child support case...

The man is broke, but he cares about his boy, and he does all he can to help.
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Why in the hell is he so broke, if I can get my butt up and work then he can too. Actually if he's so broke go out and work 2 jobs, stop making excuses for the bum. </div></div>

Boopie, do you know him? Do you know her???? How yuh a go come say she a mek excuses fi im???????

Mi deh yah a wok 50+ hours a week time an nuh bady nuh broka dan mi! So yes, im can be working an still be broke! I'on need to hear her business like dat. An if im deh deh fi de yute in adda ways, den dat is more dan relevant!

Money is not de end all an be all eno...

[Nunya]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: reddgrrl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">wow, I had no idea my post had turned into this...I wonder what else I can rant about that will elicit such intense responses from people... </div></div>

As long as yuh nuhbadda tek dis as a jump start fi poas pere fawt...

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: child support

I'm not taking sides but.....what Boopie is saying is not a lie. It may come across harsher on screen, but thats what happens with technology.

I personally don't know how a man can say he doesn't have enough to take care of his child because he has bills or other things to take care of. Is he saying that the bills are more important than his child? Is he saying that because he knows mommy will have it, he can let is slide? It's true that people do fall into money troubles, but your child's bill should be the first one paid.

Prioritize your bills because you child's financial situation is important and should come from both parents. It took the both of you to get him here......

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Money is not de end all an be all eno... </div></div>


Whether you want to admit it or not....it is!!!

Stop paying your bills and see what happens....

[Nylah]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: reddgrrl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">wow, I had no idea my post had turned into this...I wonder what else I can rant about that will elicit such intense responses from people... </div></div>

lawd I am surprised too.

hot button topic for true.

Let me back my non-breeded butt outta this here thread and let the big ppl continue to talk.

[Nunya]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_30</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I'm not taking sides but.....what Boopie is saying is not a lie. It may come across harsher on screen, but thats what happens with technology.

I personally don't know how a man can say he doesn't have enough to take care of his child because he has bills or other things to take care of. Is he saying that the bills are more important than his child? Is he saying that because he knows mommy will have it, he can let is slide? It's true that people do fall into money troubles, but your child's bill should be the first one paid.

Prioritize your bills because you child's financial situation is important and should come from both parents. It took the both of you to get him here...... </div></div>

Right here we're talking about Danna's babydaddy. Did she say he wasn't helping financially?

Did she say that he had other things to take care of which is why he couldn't pay support?

Maybe I missed her saying all that...

A nuh erryting mek fi chat an Boopie and you don't know the inner details of their relationship. If she says it's working for her, then it's working for her. As Z said, if it was a SAHM, nat a soul would've had issues widdie...

[Nunya]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_30</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Money is not de end all an be all eno... </div></div>


Whether you want to admit it or not....it is!!!

Stop paying your bills and see what happens.... </div></div>

It goes without question that money is important. But too much of us figure that if daddy can't/won't pay financially, then he should be made to pay in other ways - usually to the detriment of the child.

Not every man can afford to make child support payments. I know this and oonuu know it to, even if oonuu nuh waa admit. Some a dem a live han to mout an mos time de han cyaa even reach de mout...

Whe de madda a go do den? Yuh cyaa get blood outta stone, nuh matta how much court documents yuh have.

So bottom line yuh haffi mek do. And we know how to mek do.

Sometime wi mek bitterness nyam wi up so much dat, even doah de man broke, an im say im ooda still like fi come hang out wid im yute, wi a go tell im NO! yuh cyaa come eena mi house whe ME ONE a pay fah! Yuh cyaa come siddung pon mi couch whe ME ONE a pay fah. Yuh cyaa come carry de pickney gaa park eena de clothes whe ME ONE pay fah.

All wi a focus pon is jus wiself...

De pickney likkle. All im can si im daddy. Smaddy whe eena im psyche. Pickney love im puppa <span style="font-style: italic">jus because</span>. We nuh have de right fi interfere wid dat, nuh matta how much wi bitta an tyad. No matta how much wi tink say it unfair.

To much a wi mek de financial support wi nah get intefere wid de justice wi should be <span style="text-decoration: underline">always</span> showing wi pickney. De justice of de pickney knowing dem fadda even if de fadda nah buy im even one sweetie.

[kingy]

Re: child support

The way some people look pon life they will never have a propa man/relationship.

a next i notice is this.

if the man used to make 1000 bucks a month and the child get what him/her need..now the man making 5k a month..its as if the amount she used to get for the child when he was making the 1000 now is not enough.

This 50cent case is a good example. de man raking it. she getting 25k a month from 50. because she greedy..she went to court for more and now gett 5k.

The way bandy hangle the situation..she will always have that man to help her as she is genuine and she understands life.

[Boopie2]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly_n_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
There is no excuse what so ever. They can sit around and beg you to have their child, the minute the child gets here it's another story. I know things happen and yes we can run into trouble from time to time but how long has he been singing this broke song and dance? Big ole strapping somebody hollering he's broke I don't care if he had to walk up and down the street selling flowers at least he's trying. It's his obligation to do more than care. </div></div>


You know what Boopie, I'm not talking about Bandi's situation directly but for some parents that situation works out best. My father lived in the states since I was 1 year old and I only saw him once e year. Mind you I had everything I could ever want/need materially it still did not make up for my father's not being there. I didn't live with my father until I was 17 years old and by then it was too late for me to form the bond with him that he would have liked.

Anyway, I am not saying that financial support from both parents is not necessary. The point I am trying to make is that material things are not all that a child needs and if he is getting everything materially and getting love, affection and attention from both parents then I don't see anything wrong with that. Especially if both parents are mutually agreeable on it. </div></div>


Please don't &quot;ASSUME&quot; that I&quot;m talking about Bandi either in this quote. I do have 2 friends and one cousin in the same damn situation as well, it's sickening as hell to hear excuse after excuse.

[Boopie2]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: reddgrrl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">wow, I had no idea my post had turned into this...I wonder what else I can rant about that will elicit such intense responses from people... </div></div>

As long as yuh nuhbadda tek dis as a jump start fi poas pere fawt... </div></div>

[Boopie2]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_30</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Money is not de end all an be all eno... </div></div>


Whether you want to admit it or not....it is!!!

Stop paying your bills and see what happens.... </div></div>

It goes without question that money is important. But too much of us figure that if daddy can't/won't pay financially, then he should be made to pay in other ways - usually to the detriment of the child.

Not every man can afford to make child support payments. I know this and oonuu know it to, even if oonuu nuh waa admit. Some a dem a live han to mout an mos time de han cyaa even reach de mout...

Whe de madda a go do den? Yuh cyaa get blood outta stone, nuh matta how much court documents yuh have.

So bottom line yuh haffi mek do. And we know how to mek do.

Sometime wi mek bitterness nyam wi up so much dat, even doah de man broke, an im say im ooda still like fi come hang out wid im yute, wi a go tell im NO! yuh cyaa come eena mi house whe ME ONE a pay fah! Yuh cyaa come siddung pon mi couch whe ME ONE a pay fah. Yuh cyaa come carry de pickney gaa park eena de clothes whe ME ONE pay fah.

All wi a focus pon is jus wiself...

De pickney likkle. All im can si im daddy. Smaddy whe eena im psyche. Pickney love im puppa <span style="font-style: italic">jus because</span>. We nuh have de right fi interfere wid dat, nuh matta how much wi bitta an tyad. No matta how much wi tink say it unfair.

To much a wi mek de financial support wi nah get intefere wid de justice wi should be <span style="text-decoration: underline">always</span> showing wi pickney. De justice of de pickney knowing dem fadda even if de fadda nah buy im even one sweetie. </div></div>



Oh please get out of here with that sob story, he help make the child so the mother is suppose to shoulder the burden. If a mother can do without for the sake of her kids, then the father should be doing the same darn thing. If a mother can work herself to the bone paying every darn thing, there is no excuse why the father shouldn't be doing the same darn thing and more. I have seen fathers turning their backs on &quot;his&quot; entire family, not wanting to have anything to do with their own children period.


Yes there are some men who get caught up into the wrong situations, and you feel sorry for those. But on the other hand like I said before a big ole healthy man chatting the same tired lines, or simply not dealing with his responsibilites is sickening.

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: child support

Nunya I was speaking in general terms, not Bandy situation.

[Boopie2]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_30</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I'm not taking sides but.....what Boopie is saying is not a lie. It may come across harsher on screen, but thats what happens with technology.

I personally don't know how a man can say he doesn't have enough to take care of his child because he has bills or other things to take care of. Is he saying that the bills are more important than his child? Is he saying that because he knows mommy will have it, he can let is slide? It's true that people do fall into money troubles, but your child's bill should be the first one paid.

Prioritize your bills because you child's financial situation is important and should come from both parents. It took the both of you to get him here...... </div></div>



Right here we're talking about Danna's babydaddy. Did she say he wasn't helping financially?

Did she say that he had other things to take care of which is why he couldn't pay support?

Maybe I missed her saying all that...

A nuh erryting mek fi chat an Boopie and you don't know the inner details of their relationship. If she says it's working for her, then it's working for her. As Z said, if it was a SAHM, nat a soul would've had issues widdie...


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Actually TLC could be talking in a &quot;general sense&quot;.

Maybe I missed her saying all that... No she doesn't come right out and chat about it this time but we have spoken about the subject previously in another post.

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kingaling</div><div class="ubbcode-body">The way some people look pon life they will never have a propa man/relationship.</div></div>

ughhhhh.....shaddup


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kingaling</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
The way bandy hangle the situation..she will always have that man to help her as she is genuine and she understands life. </div></div>


Like I said before, I am knocking bandy situation/arrangement. If it's good for her, it's great for me.

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: child support

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_30</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I'm not taking sides but.....what Boopie is saying is not a lie. It may come across harsher on screen, but thats what happens with technology.

I personally don't know how a man can say he doesn't have enough to take care of his child because he has bills or other things to take care of. Is he saying that the bills are more important than his child? Is he saying that because he knows mommy will have it, he can let is slide? It's true that people do fall into money troubles, but your child's bill should be the first one paid.

Prioritize your bills because you child's financial situation is important and should come from both parents. It took the both of you to get him here...... </div></div>



Right here we're talking about Danna's babydaddy. Did she say he wasn't helping financially?

Did she say that he had other things to take care of which is why he couldn't pay support?

Maybe I missed her saying all that...

A nuh erryting mek fi chat an Boopie and you don't know the inner details of their relationship. If she says it's working for her, then it's working for her. As Z said, if it was a SAHM, nat a soul would've had issues widdie...


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Actually TLC could be talking in a &quot;general sense&quot;.

Maybe I missed her saying all that... No she doesn't come right out and chat about it this time but we have spoken about the subject previously in another post.
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And you hit the nail on the head Boopie...I was speaking in general....