Labour Pains

[ILP]

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You know SandiF that was why mi was trying to see wid im enoh? but things just seem to be outta hand. i mean he was just gone ahn when im was home (as in the house) it come in sed way...im was gone

Well one of di times he was gone on business (to be read: work trip im switch wid smaddy so im could end up home)...mi come right out ahn ask im....WTH is going on

Well im answered....

"ILP, I think I'm gonna stay here"

<span style="font-style: italic">heart drap....faint weh.... </span>

[kia027]

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<span style="font-style: italic">faint weh reading dis </span>

[diabolical_Tanya]

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<span style="font-style: italic">faint weh sidea Kia (or pan tappa) </span>

[ILP]

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I've always prided myself on being the kind of person that did ahn (mostly) said the right things to the people she loved. i've always been (for the most part) rational. I've always seen the forest for the trees...most of the time.

I'm not proud of myself, but I think I called that man every name in the book. Hung up on im...called im back ahn then call im few more names for good measure. Mi wont even get into how mi did threaten fi burn up im tings once mi found out &quot;who the [censored] was that he was going out there to see&quot; Mi asked:

1. wah bout mi?
2. wah bout im son?
3. wah bout mi?
4. the house?
5. wah bout mi?
6. how im could do this?
7. wah bout mi?
8. what's the ooman's name?
9. how long this was in the works?
10 wah bout mi?

For him it all boiled down to: &quot;ILP, I just need to be with my family right now. There is no other woman. I cant explain it, but with everything...I just need to be here right now. I've checked it out at work and it's doable....that's all I've worked out right now.&quot;

Me: WTH

I wasn't in the right frame of mind with everything wid BabygirlA...mi gave im an ultimatum...

&quot;Look ya man! Find your raas pawts back here or no boddah come back atall.&quot; Ahn mi boom down di phone pon im.

We didn't talk for 2 weeks.

[CeaBee]

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[Gen]

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Oh nooo he didn't


Mi understand the grief of it all but what bout him &quot;family&quot; back in MD ?? although grief have a way of mekking people lose them mind for a moment

Never knew about the niece that was so sudden and she so young

ILP please to hurry and come with the happy part of this thread mi can't tek nuh more bawling geezas

nuh tell mi yuh move gone a k-k-Kansas ??

[diabolical_Tanya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Oh nooo he didn't




nuh tell mi yuh move gone a k-k-Kansas ?? </div></div>

that would explain errrrry ting

[FrenchTickla]

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how u blood pressure during alla dis?

how him fi move dem way dere? him nuh discuss dis wid him lady? u nuh common law wife by now? him neva miss di pickney? him really a do dis fi be home wid him family (of origin)?

it nuh sound righted at all

hush ilp

[Skelly]

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I am sooooo over EMO men

[MsExced]

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Lawd (((ilp)))

Yea hurry come with the good part.

[ILP]

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My pride wouldn't let me call im back Same pride wouldnt let me ansa di phones when im would call same pride mek mi lissen im messages over and over everytime im did call ahn leave dem Pride made me feel like a real eediat when he called to say he was coming home, but instead of making sure I was home to meet him...I stayed out overnight (stayed at a friends house) wid Hunter instead

So...we talked. Sigh...

His side:
Parents are elderly and don't have much.
Need responsible people to look after them. Brother (ahn his family) are responsible, but them just as &quot;dont have much&quot; ahn can only do but so much.
Di current mr ilp sister (who is responsible) live in MD ahn with her family...she doesnt get back there as often as she should.
Asked parents if they would come to MD...them said them not leaving them home.
Extended family, while nice and all...not very dependable. Them nu have nutten eidah.
Him always wanted to go back home.
Him niece's death and mom's fall just really brought his feeling forward.
My family is different...we live all bout ahn nu see anyting wid just packing up ahn flying to see we one annedah, but him family is different.
He really wants to move back west...ahn im want me ahn Hunter to come..but understand if mi nu want to do that.

My side:
So how long you been planning this When you did plan fi ask mi opinion You even need my opinion Wah bout mi Wah bout Hunter Wi have a house THIS is where wi live I WORK...what mi know bout midwest. How mi can find job What is in di midwest Wah bout you job Wah bout mi

His side:
Like I said...I've always wanted to go home. Mom ahn pops need help. I checked it out at work ahn It is doable...I still need to check a few more things, but it is doable. The house here (as in MD) depends on you and what you want to do You're a teacher, ILP...you can always get a job I'm trying to talk about this and work it out with you now. &quot;In my head, you and Hunter would come with me.&quot;

Not sure why...but di &quot;you and Hunter would come with me&quot; pawt juss hot mi all over again. when mi seh mi had ahn overwhelming desire to tump im sida im jaw


sigh....aye sah

[MsExced]

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What about him going once per month like a long weekend to check on them.

Set up financial help while still living in MD

[Peasie]

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ILP

A few things:

1. Does bgA remind you of anyone?
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">babygirlA was rather matter-of-fact (which concerned me at first) ahn it basically just boiled down to her wanting to end a chapter in her life...a chapter in which she decided the beginning/end. </div></div>

2. The CMILP loves you and wants you in his life for a long time. And this situation is complex and, sorry, but it cannot be boiled down an either/or situation. So he was clumsy in 'coming clean' about his Kansas move - well, that is all it is - clumsy. He felt you had your hands full with court, bgA, school, etc. Then there was his niece, his parents, Kansas, etc. Things are completely out of alignment right now.

3. <span style="text-decoration: underline">He loves you</span>. He is also sure of your love for him - and c'mon, you love this man.

4. So you two need a crucial conversation. Sorry about that term sounding too workshoppy-leadershippy-corporaty but some of the principles can apply.

5. You and the CMILP's sister in Md and have mutual respect for each other and she seems kind (I remembered how she stepped in when Hunter was a baby and your world was topsy-turvy). What is her take on this? (I know is her brother and all, but she may offer a perspective that you never thought of.)

6. You are a bright, intelligent woman with a heart as big as the world. God has blessed you and many, many more blessings are coming your way.

7. Kansas may not be that bad.

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">ILP

A few things:

1. Does bgA remind you of anyone?
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">babygirlA was rather matter-of-fact (which concerned me at first) ahn it basically just boiled down to her wanting to end a chapter in her life...a chapter in which she decided the beginning/end. </div></div>

2. The CMILP loves you and wants you in his life for a long time. And this situation is complex and, sorry, but it cannot be boiled down an either/or situation. So he was clumsy in 'coming clean' about his Kansas move - well, that is all it is - clumsy. He felt you had your hands full with court, bgA, school, etc. Then there was his niece, his parents, Kansas, etc. Things are completely out of alignment right now.

3. <span style="text-decoration: underline">He loves you</span>. He is also sure of your love for him - and c'mon, you love this man.

4. So you two need a crucial conversation. Sorry about that term sounding too workshoppy-leadershippy-corporaty but some of the principles can apply.

5. You and the CMILP's sister in Md and have mutual respect for each other and she seems kind (I remembered how she stepped in when Hunter was a baby and your world was topsy-turvy). What is her take on this? (I know is her brother and all, but she may offer a perspective that you never thought of.)

6. You are a bright, intelligent woman with a heart as big as the world. God has blessed you and many, many more blessings are coming your way.

7. Kansas may not be that bad.

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What Peasie said

Overland Park is a very diverse area with lots of IT and Telecom folks deh bout. The parents are usually motivated about education so you could find work there. Starting out may be hard and different but his parents are old and in need of proper care. If you think of it as a 3 or 5 yr plan this could work!

[CeaBee]

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it sound like ILP and CMRILP already resolve this.

&quot;There's no place like home&quot;