I would like some opinions

[Nunya]

Re: I would like some opinions

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
They're married. I saw give him one more chance. </div></div>

Gaa yuh bed. Caw yuh too young fi dis yah awgiment yah...

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
They're married. I saw give him one more chance. </div></div>

Gaa yuh bed. Caw yuh too young fi dis yah awgiment yah... </div></div>

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[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">They're married. I saw give him one more chance. </div></div>

S82, until you get a real boyfriend and have that person bax you in the face, let me know about the "one more chance" thing...

Besides read the whole post - Deb has put up with some -ish for a while. So him lickin' her is the end of the line and not the beginning.
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Deb, you are far better than your circumstance and I hope you decide to get out of dodge before it's too late.

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is your husband. How about trying counseling. But if he hits you ONE MORE TIME..kick him out.. </div></div>


I will pretend that all of this is a HUGE typo..... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

Deb, I'm sorry to hear all of the troubles you are dealing with. In the end, YOU have to have the strength to leave. None of us here has the right to tell you to throw him out and blah, blah, blah. We can back it up with all the logic in the world, but if you're not ready it won't happen. You have to be ready to do it all on your own. Only YOU will know when that time comes.

Best of luck to you.... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

[Gen]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
They're married. I saw give him one more chance. </div></div>

Gaa yuh bed. Caw yuh too young fi dis yah awgiment yah... </div></div>


woieeeeeeeeeeeeeee

ah deading [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[Hush Darlin]

Re: I would like some opinions

omce and abuser always an abuser
him lick you once him wi lick you twice, thrice and so on and so forth
an him wil abways be sorry til him lick you again
and yes mi talkin fram experience
who feels it knows it

[JM1]

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Debs, all the agonizing you are doing is a dangerous waste of time. He is going to kill you if you don't make a decision to take your son with you and drop out of sight. Women pay with their lives all the time by overthinking and rationalising this problem instead of acting.

You need to seek help from an organisation that shelters women who are in danger of losing their lives. You also need legal help. This is way beyond the scope of a message board.

[jagypsy]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: JM1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Debs, all the agonizing you are doing is a dangerous waste of time. He is going to kill you if you don't make a decision to take your son with you and drop out of sight. Women pay with their lives all the time by overthinking and rationalising this problem instead of acting.

You need to seek help from an organization that shelters women who are in danger of losing their lives. You also need legal help.
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I agree fully. Do NOT takes his threat of harming you lightly. He is physically and emotionally abusive and is exposing your child to this behavior too. I did a web search for a national directory which lists assistance, not knowing where you live. You need support from more than just people on this board and family members on both sides are minimizing his actions. The info below may help you:


National Domestic Violence/Child Abuse/ Sexual Abuse: 800-799-SAFE /800-799-7233/800-787-3224 TDD
800-942-6908 Spanish Speaking
24-hour-a-day hotline, Provides crisis intervention and referrals to local services and shelters for victims of partner or spousal abuse. English and Spanish speaking advocates are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Staffed by trained volunteers who are ready to connect people with emergency help in their own communities, including emergency services and shelters. The staff can also provide information and referrals for a variety of non-emergency services, including counseling for adults and children, and assistance in reporting abuse. They have an extensive database of domestic violence treatment providers in all US states and territories. Many staff members speak languages besides English, and they have 24-hour access to translators for approximately 150 languages. For the hearing impaired, there is a TDD number. This is a great resource for anyone--man, woman or child--who is experiencing or has experienced domestic violence or abuse, or who suspects that someone they know is being abused.


From domesticviolence.org:

Definition

Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or dating.

Examples of abuse include:

* name-calling or putdowns
* keeping a partner from contacting their family or friends
* withholding money
* stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job
* actual or threatened physical harm
* sexual assault
* stalking
* intimidation

Violence can be criminal and includes physical assault (hitting, pushing, shoving, etc.), sexual abuse (unwanted or forced sexual activity), and stalking. Although emotional, psychological and financial abuse are not criminal behaviors, they are forms of abuse and can lead to criminal violence.

The violence takes many forms and can happen all the time or once in a while. An important step to help yourself or someone you know in preventing or stopping violence is recognizing the warning signs listed on the "Violence Wheel."


I pray you gather the strength to create the life you deserve and know that whatever God you believe in does not want this life for you and your child. Sending you love and support...

[DC]

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Did not get to read all the pages, but my two cents would be--RUN not WALK to the nearest exit..wherever it may be..and please follow jagypsy's advice and utilise the information in his/her post. I have worked with abused women and have friends and family members who have been where you are.....Praying for ya......

[SandiF]

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so wah mek yu delete yu post?

[trelawnysmall]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">so wah mek yu delete yu post? </div></div>

SandiF ~ i wrote it from the heart, but then I remembered [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] from not so long ago, that this bb is not the place for me to discuss my personal life.

I know there to be too many bad minded, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img] two faced, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/icon_hug.gif[/img] back stabing, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/throwstone.gif[/img] sinister [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/fight.gif[/img] people lurking around, that when they get their feather's ruffled up or panties in a knot, they attack in a way that, truthfully, Im just not up for the fight right now. I may email it to Debs, but not for the masses.
Not me.
But hey, thanks for asking. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TSmall</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">so wah mek yu delete yu post? </div></div>

SandiF ~ i wrote it from the heart, but then I remembered [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] from not so long ago, that this bb is not the place for me to discuss my personal life.

I know there to be too many bad minded, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img] two faced, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/icon_hug.gif[/img] back stabing, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/throwstone.gif[/img] sinister [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/fight.gif[/img] people lurking around, that when they get their feather's ruffled up or panties in a knot, they attack in a way that, truthfully, Im just not up for the fight right now. I may email it to Debs, but not for the masses.
Not me.
But hey, thanks for asking. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img] </div></div>


I hear ya......

[ZaraJah]

Re: I would like some opinions

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TSmall</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">so wah mek yu delete yu post? </div></div>

SandiF ~ i wrote it from the heart, but then I remembered [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] from not so long ago, that this bb is not the place for me to discuss my personal life.

I know there to be too many bad minded, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img] two faced, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/icon_hug.gif[/img] back stabing, [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/throwstone.gif[/img] sinister [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/fight.gif[/img] people lurking around, that when they get their feather's ruffled up or panties in a knot, they attack in a way that, truthfully, Im just not up for the fight right now. I may email it to Debs, but not for the masses.
Not me.
But hey, thanks for asking. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img] </div></div>

Shoooot, those emails and PM's can be just as deadly. It is best to just talk on the phone during the call-a-chatterbox-on-jam.com-athons and then deny everything. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is your husband. How about trying counseling. But if he hits you ONE MORE TIME..kick him out.. </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bexbad.gif[/img] doh [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img]

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[MarieK]

Re: I would like some opinions

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is your husband. How about trying counseling. But if he hits you ONE MORE TIME..kick him out.. </div></div>
One more time??? What, two's the limit???? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70392-silly.gif[/img] </div></div>

xactly.