Should I go?

**kia027** · 11-08-2007, 06:51 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: LadyZ</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

jus like u are not italian.

jamaicans have long memories eno! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img] </div></div>pap tory...is dis de smae person weh did come seh dem wuk doing dis an dat an she an man fight inna car an ray ray?? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] </div></div>

same one Zed

**nattydreadgirl** · 11-08-2007, 06:53 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: LadyZ</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

jus like u are not italian.

jamaicans have long memories eno! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img] </div></div>pap tory...is dis de smae person weh did come seh dem wuk doing dis an dat an she an man fight inna car an ray ray?? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] </div></div>

CALLING ALL SPREADSHEET HOLDERS, come verify! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/popcorn.gif[/img]

**DebsinNY** · 11-08-2007, 06:53 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

jus like u are not italian.

jamaicans have long memories eno! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img] </div></div>

well I am definately not Caucasian either.

**FrenchTickla** · 11-08-2007, 06:53 PM

Re: Should I go?

mi ready fi some cass cass (slow day) so pull out oonu spreadsheet and fill di i in nuh

**diabolical_Tanya** · 11-08-2007, 06:56 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: nattydreadgirl</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: LadyZ</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

jus like u are not italian.

jamaicans have long memories eno! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img] </div></div>pap tory...is dis de smae person weh did come seh dem wuk doing dis an dat an she an man fight inna car an ray ray?? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] </div></div>

CALLING ALL SPREADSHEET HOLDERS, come verify! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/popcorn.gif[/img] </div></div>

I verify above information to be 100% accurate

**BlessedLadyOfZion** · 11-08-2007, 06:58 PM

Re: Should I go?

Ok, unu tap de quoting now \o/

**KgnJa69** · 11-08-2007, 07:05 PM

Re: Should I go?

...putting entry into mi spreadsheet

Don't eva eva cross SueSumba [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

I'm willing fi bet that dis oooman tink all Jamaican man a dawg [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

**diabolical_Tanya** · 11-08-2007, 07:23 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: nattydreadgirl</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: LadyZ</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TanyaAynat</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">He is 4. His father hasn't seen him in a month and all of a sudden his mother dies and he wants to have his "family" there to support him???? </div></div>sometimes it takes a traumatic event such as this to make people realize that they need family support. Don't let your bitterness from the events of your seperation and divorce cloud your judgement in regards to relationship between your son and HIS father.

child support should not be an "access" fee for a parent to see his or her child IMHO..... </div></div>

I don't keep my son from his father. I have never done that. He is working in NJ and is always making excuses as to why he can't come see his son then all of a sudden his mother is dead and he is available.

My issue really is that I don't want my son going to the funeral. I am not comfortable with that. I am ok with him going to the house after the service. It may be ok for children to be around dead bodies in Jamaica but I am not Jamaican and neither is my child. </div></div>

can u help me understand why you are on a jamaican site asking for advice? Your son is half jamaican no matter how much you may wish to deny it. </div></div>

I come on this site mainly to look at the trip reports and I come in here every now and then.

And you are wrong Kia. My son cannot be half Jamaican because Jamaican is not a race. </div></div>

jus like u are not italian.

jamaicans have long memories eno! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img] </div></div>pap tory...is dis de smae person weh did come seh dem wuk doing dis an dat an she an man fight inna car an ray ray?? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] </div></div>

CALLING ALL SPREADSHEET HOLDERS, come verify! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/popcorn.gif[/img] </div></div>

I verify above information to be 100% accurate </div></div>

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: LadyZ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Ok, unu tap de quoting now \o/ </div></div>

Okay [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

**diabolical_Tanya** · 11-08-2007, 07:24 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Scarface</div><div class="ubbcode-body">...putting entry into mi spreadsheet

Don't eva eva cross SueSumba [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

I'm willing fi bet that dis oooman tink all Jamaican man a dawg [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] </div></div>SCARFACE!!!!!! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/icon_hug.gif[/img]

**julie*mango** · 11-08-2007, 08:10 PM

Re: Should I go?

Debs, all mi haffi seh is, I can relate [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70374-lipsrsealed.gif[/img]

**Nylah** · 11-08-2007, 08:20 PM

Re: Should I go?

Skelly I think alot of ppl can relate to having an awful family member. No one is special in that regards.

The point is regardless of that, do you think she should deny her child attending a funeral because she doesnt like the woman?

**julie*mango** · 11-08-2007, 08:25 PM

Re: Should I go?

It sounds to me like the issue is with her son "being around dead bodies" than with the MIL. I'd let him go though, just explain to him what is going on. You know kids have a million questions.

**Nylah** · 11-08-2007, 08:28 PM

Re: Should I go?

Then she should skip the part about spitting on the woman's coffin and just ask about how we feel about kids being exposed to dead bodies.

BTW, I think that is her excuse for not sending the child and the issue it really is about the MIL and her ex-husband.

**julie*mango** · 11-08-2007, 08:38 PM

Re: Should I go?

Whatever her motives may be I know personally I wouldn't be comfortable bringing a baby or young child to a funeral...but that is based on my own superstitions.

**julie*mango** · 11-08-2007, 08:44 PM

Re: Should I go?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DebsinNY</div><div class="ubbcode-body">My husband and I are separated pending divorce. I have not seen him in over a month and the last time I did he gave me $60 for our son. He called me 3 days ago telling me that his mother died and he wants me and our son to attend the funeral. I told him I am not going anywhere and neither is my son. Maybe I will let him take J to the gathering after the burial but I do not want him around dead bodies. He is now yelling at me and calling me selfish. I mean, I hate the woman, and quite frankly I am glad she is dead, she was such a meddler. If I do end up going I told him I will spit in her coffin as a goodbye gift. He is calling me all sorts of names. What should I do? </div></div>

go.
spit in the heifer's coffin [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img]

practice yu son pan him spitting too soh him can drap wan good load pan di deddaz as well. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

spit inna di dutty bway face tu. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img] bout $60. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img] waddat can buy? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] </div></div>

how mi miss dis? sue yu classic [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img]

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