LDRs

[rie]

Re: LDRs

FYI I know Doctors, Police, Pastors, Business owners, the local shop keeper, Bankers, the rich and the poor. I do not discriminate, even though I would consider myself upper middle class.

We are talking about LDR'S, not my social circle

[Marilyn]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tishamae</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marilyn</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Ah my .....the weave of the allure of the start of the LDR (yes I am on topic)....so many elements to it.


First of all just being approached by a man PERIOD....yep speaking from this perspective here in Memphis, USA. brothers have figured out that THEY are the prize, and they just kinda lay back in the cut (get out your ghetto dictionary), and let women come to/fight/ time share, over them.

Now you get to Jamaica, and you are &quot;minding your own business&quot;, and this sweet silky voice COMES TO YOU.....WOW HE SAW ME AND CAME TO ME AND APPROACHED ME!!!!!(Immediately the impression is made that he must see SOMETHING attractive in you, or else why would he have come over?)

For the girl who may not be used to that, the intoxication has already begun. Just the chance to &quot;be the girl&quot; and have the alpha male come to YOU, it begins. He ain't gotta say too damn much, but before a Jamaican man even opens his mouth he has perfected the art of looking you up and down like you are the hot fudge sundae from Friday's with the double scoop of french vanilla ice cream on top. Now whatever the hell it is he is going to say is already to the second power and squared, and he ain't got too much further to go before he has the room key and is moved in for the rest of the week.


For some girls it's the accent and the exotic, and shoot me for saying it but for some WHite girls it's the chance to live their Mandingo fantasy without fear of reprecussions from the peanut gallery. (I said SOME....I know one white girl on here who never dated a white guy her whole life,here or over there, and she knows who she is , so I ain't talking to you)..


Ok so he does speak and oh what comes out....pure musical lyrics....why you think they call them lyrics???? All the things any lady would like to hear, and remember there is that constant visual rape going on, like wait until I get you out of those clothes.... and if this girl is maybe not the prettiest crayon in the box (for whatever reason, size, so called acceptable beauty,up in age,whatever), then this is really music to her ears. See but here in the kicker,,, inside every woman there is this person who DOES have self esteem, everyone's mother told them they are beautiful, worthy, that person has focused on more about themselves than their outer beauty. You KNOW you are a good person, you KNOW you are worthy to walk this planet, and when this man starts to tap into all of this (I think these MFrs are better than Harvard PHD psychologists personally), then you start to think that you have luckily stumbled through the sand in this far away country and found the one person God put on earth who sees into your soul and loves you for you. Oh God I hate this word, but your SOULMATe


Then it never hits your [censored] that you are paying for everything on the damn trip, that he can't possibly REALLY have a REAL job if he can take off and lay up under your [censored] for 8 straight days, sucking up everything in your hotel room. If they DO have a job that you KNOW they have, and they go to it, and then come do you, then you somehow convince yourself that they are &quot;not a gigolo&quot;. Sweetie, they are a GWAJ..... that is Gigolo with a Job, and you are what we call part time job supplemental income.

Once you leave and go home, the real fun begins....welcome to the wonderful world of Western Union....soon you can fill out that form blindfolded. The fun part is convincing yourself that that ain't you standing in that line sending your hard earned money from the US to this man in Jamaica why????

Whatever reason he gave you, YOU are still sending money over there (and yes, I have done it, so this is no scatching indictment of anyone else, I speak from experience). Listen to me ,YOU ARE SENDING YOUR HARD EARNED MONEY TO A MAN IN JAMAICA......

MAN being the operative word here, and on this subject I am going to write one sentence and one sentence only...

A <span style="font-weight: bold">REAL man</span>in Jamaica, Ireland Iraq or China, would starve before he asks a woman for ONE DAMN DIME. End of story.

You can justify it as an investment in YOUR future (in some cases it turns out to be so,and the woman eventually can &quot;cash in&quot;, as in get the prize, him the house, everything....I know one who &quot;cashed &quot; in and is over in Jamaica getting her [censored] beat regularly and the world thinks she's living some damn dream. And I know a few who ARE over there with their devoted guy living well, which will you be???) Roll the dice.


So the original post Blue Angel was LDR.....Were you asking can people continue to live countries apart and sustain a dream? DO the women think that in their 6 months absence the men are over their holding their ____ in their hands til they return??? Guess you could find examples of anything on this board.. If you get one yes in any category does it answer the question???

I just know for this girl, it's me the sky some ocean and jerk chicken...

THE END
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This is excellent

Now that there is the new immigration law, I see no reason to get in a LDR that people think is true love. How are you going to live retirement there full time any more? Take it for what it is.

I have a house there. It's mine. I did not pay for all of it. My x paid more than me. But it's mine. I do not go there anymore because I do not feel safe at night. I would need arms and to me it's not worth the risk. So there it sits in paradise with the ackee, banana, coconut trees, and my sweet-sweet breadfruit ,mangos, pineapple, apple, and more, all which I planted myself, dream about but probally will never eat again.

If you come from forgien you must have money, right? They don't have a clue how hard we work til they reach stateside, which has also about shut down. Have ya all ever heard Mama Man, Milk, Grocery in patwa convo's? That's slang for the lady is being played and he's being paid.

The End </div></div>You can pay for a house, and never get to live in it, all he and his family have to do is tell you to go away, and then what can you do???? REALLY.???? You expect Jamaica to side with YOU againist one of their own??? I don't think so.

[Marilyn]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: evanovitch</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">f you come from forgien you must have money, right? They don't have a clue how hard we work til they reach stateside </div></div>

u know, it would not hurt to go up the social n educational scale when forming relationships in Ja...not all view farrin n farrinas this way...juss a thought... </div></div>Now you talking like my sista Seveen. She says &quot;Everyone in Jamaica ain't poor&quot;, get you a Jamaican executive.

[Marilyn]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tishamae</div><div class="ubbcode-body">FYI I know Doctors, Police, Pastors, Business owners, the local shop keeper, Bankers, the rich and the poor. I do not discriminate, even though I would consider myself upper middle class.

We are talking about LDR'S, not my social circle </div></div>In my long list of LDR&quot;S with initials only there are some upper crust men and women both included in the list, not all beach hoys, hoes and gigolos.

[ackeepod]

Re: LDRs

NONE a fi uunu REAL MEN neva ask uunu fi money??
man asking woman fi mine him is different from asking for money for a specific need .
Mi naw mine no man eda in america or jamaica.. but is a fool man who would rather starve dan ask im woman fi a money ...(dat is if both people earn dem owna money)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tishamae</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nanook</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
A REAL manin Jamaica, Ireland Iraq or China, would starve before he asks a woman for ONE DAMN DIME. End of story.</div></div>

I wholeheartedly agree with this sentence. </div></div>

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[Nanook]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi naw mine no man eda in america or jamaica.. but is a fool man who would rather starve dan ask im woman fi a money ...(dat is if both people earn dem owna money)</div></div>

No man...if a man need a money from somewhere it ain't gonna be from me. I could never look at the person as a MAN again, if even one time I had to give him/borrow/ money for him or his family, his children, or whatever be the case. They must come with better than that.

I am not the national bank!

[julie*mango]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marilyn</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: evanovitch</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">f you come from forgien you must have money, right? They don't have a clue how hard we work til they reach stateside </div></div>

u know, it would not hurt to go up the social n educational scale when forming relationships in Ja...not all view farrin n farrinas this way...juss a thought... </div></div>Now you talking like my sista Seveen. She says &quot;Everyone in Jamaica ain't poor&quot;, get you a Jamaican executive. </div></div>\


go to kingston

[Marilyn]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marilyn</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: evanovitch</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">f you come from forgien you must have money, right? They don't have a clue how hard we work til they reach stateside </div></div>

u know, it would not hurt to go up the social n educational scale when forming relationships in Ja...not all view farrin n farrinas this way...juss a thought... </div></div>Now you talking like my sista Seveen. She says &quot;Everyone in Jamaica ain't poor&quot;, get you a Jamaican executive. </div></div>\


go to kingston </div></div>Skellly...I ran that past Kinsgton lady I met at BBB, and she says ain't none there

[evanovitch]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tishamae</div><div class="ubbcode-body">FYI I know Doctors, Police, Pastors, Business owners, the local shop keeper, Bankers, the rich and the poor. I do not discriminate, even though I would consider myself upper middle class.

We are talking about LDR'S, not my social circle </div></div>

but the doctor etc would not tink u ha money juss tru u come from farrin n would also know about work being hard ,wich eva country it is...ur statement as written was commented on in context....since the LDRs under discussion hold dem deh view, i am stating dat people who undergoing said wid said LDRs should scale up...ur social circle no ha nutten fi do wid nutten..is juss ur comment so mi comment pon it...

[Bizzy]

Re: LDRs

Cooyah, so if u have yuh man, hubby, SO whatever and him get laid off, fired, injured an cyaan wuk fi a few months...unu ago kick him out?

I can understand the man should be takin care of bills, finances, etc...but if my man come an say give him $20 fi go buy juice or put gas inna de car, mi wi gi him cah mi know say mi a get back de $20 TIMES 1000 before de month end an him anuh national bank either

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nanook</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi naw mine no man eda in america or jamaica.. but is a fool man who would rather starve dan ask im woman fi a money ...(dat is if both people earn dem owna money)</div></div>

No man...if a man need a money from somewhere it ain't gonna be from me. I could never look at the person as a MAN again, if even one time I had to give him/borrow/ money for him or his family, his children, or whatever be the case. They must come with better than that.

I am not the national bank!

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[Bizzy]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tishamae</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jaith</div><div class="ubbcode-body">well, let the woman or man who has been 100% faithful &amp; true in all the dealings of their life cast the first stone.....in the end, everyone faces their maker....&amp; He don't care bout what the next one did....he's looking at YOUR heart. deal with your own motives of your own heart &amp; don't worry bout the rest.... </div></div>

I am not 'worried' as my man shares my roof 365 days a year. </div></div>

man a 'yaad' (not jamaica) can gi bun to. Jus cause he live with u don't mean a thing....

[Bizzy]

Re: LDRs

dis mek it seem like only fat, ugly, old chicks, mostly white end up inna LDR wid &quot;Winstons&quot;

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marilyn</div><div class="ubbcode-body">


For some girls it's the accent and the exotic, and shoot me for saying it but for some WHite girls it's the chance to live their Mandingo fantasy without fear of reprecussions from the peanut gallery. (I said SOME....I know one white girl on here who never dated a white guy her whole life,here or over there, and she knows who she is , so I ain't talking to you)..


Ok so he does speak and oh what comes out....pure musical lyrics....why you think they call them lyrics???? All the things any lady would like to hear, and remember there is that constant visual rape going on, like wait until I get you out of those clothes.... and if this girl is maybe not the prettiest crayon in the box (for whatever reason, size, so called acceptable beauty,up in age,whatever), then this is really music to her ears. See but here in the kicker,,, inside every woman there is this person who DOES have self esteem, everyone's mother told them they are beautiful, worthy,
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[Nanook]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Cooyah, so if u have yuh man, hubby, SO whatever and him get laid off, fired, injured an cyaan wuk fi a few months...unu ago kick him out?

I can understand the man should be takin care of bills, finances, etc...but if my man come an say give him $20 fi go buy juice or put gas inna de car, mi wi gi him cah mi know say mi a get back de $20 TIMES 1000 before de month end an him anuh national bank either

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nanook</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi naw mine no man eda in america or jamaica.. but is a fool man who would rather starve dan ask im woman fi a money ...(dat is if both people earn dem owna money)</div></div>

No man...if a man need a money from somewhere it ain't gonna be from me. I could never look at the person as a MAN again, if even one time I had to give him/borrow/ money for him or his family, his children, or whatever be the case. They must come with better than that.

I am not the national bank!

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Nah Bizi, that is a different story. The laid off thing better be met with full time job look though! A big strongback man accepting money from the woman to live, send kids to school etc...that is the kind of thing I'm talkin about.

[Marilyn]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Cooyah, so if u have yuh man, hubby, SO whatever and him get laid off, fired, injured an cyaan wuk fi a few months...unu ago kick him out?

I can understand the man should be takin care of bills, finances, etc...but if my man come an say give him $20 fi go buy juice or put gas inna de car, mi wi gi him cah mi know say mi a get back de $20 TIMES 1000 before de month end an him anuh national bank either

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nanook</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi naw mine no man eda in america or jamaica.. but is a fool man who would rather starve dan ask im woman fi a money ...(dat is if both people earn dem owna money)</div></div>

No man...if a man need a money from somewhere it ain't gonna be from me. I could never look at the person as a MAN again, if even one time I had to give him/borrow/ money for him or his family, his children, or whatever be the case. They must come with better than that.

I am not the national bank!

</div></div> </div></div>Come Bloz you know that's not the same, by that time you on a whole nother level, like when Michelle she did work and support the famiy for a while, but Barack, she knew it would be ok someday,

[Marilyn]

Re: LDRs

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">dis mek it seem like only fat, ugly, old chicks, mostly white end up inna LDR wid &quot;Winstons&quot;

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marilyn</div><div class="ubbcode-body">


For some girls it's the accent and the exotic, and shoot me for saying it but for some WHite girls it's the chance to live their Mandingo fantasy without fear of reprecussions from the peanut gallery. (I said SOME....I know one white girl on here who never dated a white guy her whole life,here or over there, and she knows who she is , so I ain't talking to you)..


Ok so he does speak and oh what comes out....pure musical lyrics....why you think they call them lyrics???? All the things any lady would like to hear, and remember there is that constant visual rape going on, like wait until I get you out of those clothes.... and if this girl is maybe not the prettiest crayon in the box (for whatever reason, size, so called acceptable beauty,up in age,whatever), then this is really music to her ears. See but here in the kicker,,, inside every woman there is this person who DOES have self esteem, everyone's mother told them they are beautiful, worthy,
</div></div> </div></div>I think the counter to this statement would be on page one when I quoted several people I know in real life...many who are in the likkle CIRCLE that don't even converse with ME anymore (side point here), but just saying they are real people, some I still know, some I only USED to know.....who are in their little fairy tale now, so no , not all fat chicks,older chicks whatever.


Now some ah the people on that list ARE fat, and older, yes, but guess what, dem have dey man, and I DON'T.